First, I want to thank everyone for sticking with me through my Know Your Vulva series. For many, it may not seem like a big deal, but it is a huge issue for me so I wanted to put it out there for everyone. Now that we know our vulvas it's time to get back to putting them in good use.
Masturbation!
Masturbation is great because it: Relieves stress, is not a huge time commitment, helps you learn what you like and is just plain fun. There are a lot of people out there think that masturbation is just something you do until you get a partner, but there's no reason to stop then. Sometimes he or she might not be around or in the mood, or sometimes YOU JUST WANT ALONE TIME. That's perfectly natural. In a relationship with open communication it should be fine to say "hey I want to have some "me" sex."
For fatties, there can be some obstacles to "traditional" masturbation, but there are many ways to jack it, so have no fear! I personal lay on my back, and reach my arm around the side of my stomach to the clitoris. However, I'm sure there are some men and women out there who maybe can't reach or get the right angle that way. One thing you can do is use a toy that has a handle, thereby giving you an extra few inches, so to speak. I have one vibrator that is like your basic bullet vibe, but it is on a long coil. You can bend the coil until it reaches your clitoris but be able to just rest your hand higher on the thigh or even belly. Also, get creative! You don't need to spend money on vibrators. Try electric toothbrushes (wash before using them for their "intended" purpose). Water massagers can be great! Lay in the tub with your feet planted on the wall of the bathtub then angle the water so it hits your clitoris, labia, vagina, whatever you like. Or just run the faucet.
Also, we tend to think that there is only one position for masturbation. Experiment. Try standing in the shower, if you don't fit right or feel comfortable in the tub. Try laying on your stomach or side. I've even masturbated doggie-style: Prop yourself up with some pillows and reach yourself that way. Sitting straight up in a chair or against pillows on the bed might work too.
Guys out there, don't think I've forgotten you in a sea of vulvas and vibrators. There are many mens toys out there that can help fat men as well. The Fleshlight immediately comes to mind, but also, don't rule out vibrators, they can feel great for men as well. Vibrating cockrings can provide some interesting sensations and even that water massager aimed at your perineum (grundle or taint) or testicles or anus can really provide a lot of stimulation. If you have trouble reaching or providing enough thrust, try "humping" something, like the edge of the bed or a pillow. Ladies: That goes for you too, a lot of women hump to achieve orgasm, just because it doesn't seem ladylike is no reason not to try it.
A lot of times, once we find one thing that works for us we stick to it. Why be disappointed, right? But there are many ways to masturbate and as our bodies grow and age and change, different techniques work differently. What do you all do? Do you find that you have different needs because your fat? Tell me about them!
Also, for further reading check out Notblueatall's TMI Tuesday about Masturbation.
Happy Humping!
~Mrs. Sprat
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