After two years of sleeping on a 25 year-old mattress, Mr. Sprat and I finally bit the bullet and bought a new mattress/boxspring. Since moving on our own two years ago, our sex life has been okay, but certainly not what it was when we were in college. At first I chalked it up to all our new "grown-up" worries and responsibilities (though in some ways they decreased after college) and also to the fact that our relationship was growing and changing as we moved from being dating to engaged to married.
Looking back, I now think a big part of it was the fact that we had moved from living in one room to having a whole apartment. When we were in college, we did EVERYTHING in bed. We ate dinner, did homework, watched TV, EVERYTHING. Once we got an apartment, the TV moved to the living room, the computers moved to the living room, and in our most recent place, to the office and our meals shifted to the kitchen/dining room/ living room. So we went from living in bed, to only heading there when our day was completely done.
In the last two months, we got another TV, so we moved our old one back to the bedroom and we got a new mattress. Our sex life has seen a drastic change already. The bed is so much higher than the other one, so positions work in totally different ways. One of our favorites in college was to do doggie style with me on my hands and knees on the bed and Mr. Sprat standing next to the bed. It worked on our old bed, but not very well. This one is so nice and high, it's perfect. Also, since the bed is much thicker, there's no crashing into the boxspring with every thrust so our backs don't take a beating during intercourse. And, because its new and springy, my knees don't hurt at all during cowgirl, and Mr. Sprat's arms hurt less from holding up his own weight during missionary.
So this is my fat sex tip of the day: Keep your mattress updated. Not only does it help you to sleep better, thereby increasing your energy for all things sexy, but it also can help make sex more comfortable and pleasurable. Really, your mattress is your primary sex toy, so it pays to have a good one.
~ Mrs. Sprat
Can I just chime in with a comment about the tempur pedic? OMZ! You have to learn how to do everything different! There's no bounce and only a slight give. So things like gal on top? Ugh! Not so fun anymore, actually. No bounce! Luckily I never liked that posish anyway so we stick to the me on my side and my Mr. Straddling (like missionary posish)from above. Lovely!
ReplyDeleteGreat post!